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Do you ever go to church?
Do you ever go to church?
I'm making the assumption that non-believers will only go to church to make someone else happy and not because they themselves get anything out of it, but I could be wrong.
I attend church for the usual weddings, baptisms and funerals but I also occasionally attend a normal mass to keep the peace. I don't cross myself because that seems to me to be hypocritical but I do light candles because...I like it. Don't ask me why! I've noticed there's a lot of anti religious feeling among members here and I'm wondering how far strongly you feel about keeping religion out of your lives.
If you do attend a service, do you go through all the motions and sing hymns?
I attend church for the usual weddings, baptisms and funerals but I also occasionally attend a normal mass to keep the peace. I don't cross myself because that seems to me to be hypocritical but I do light candles because...I like it. Don't ask me why! I've noticed there's a lot of anti religious feeling among members here and I'm wondering how far strongly you feel about keeping religion out of your lives.
If you do attend a service, do you go through all the motions and sing hymns?
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I often find myself going in to places of worship. Most recently I was invited to see the opening if the new Hindu Mandir in Glasgow. Some very kind people explained to me the meanings of what was going on, and their kindness and hopitality was wonderful.
Some of the private conversations that day strayed into the territory of different beliefs and and philosophies, and we were able to find much more that united us in our humanity, than divided us in our different beliefs. I consider myself enriched by the experience.
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Some of the private conversations that day strayed into the territory of different beliefs and and philosophies, and we were able to find much more that united us in our humanity, than divided us in our different beliefs. I consider myself enriched by the experience.
L
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A lot of people seem to like going into churches for the quiet, a sort of spiritual (non-religious) serenity, and also because they like the buildings.
I don't much like the feel of most churches, the high ceilings and alcoves and such. But I would go if I was invited to a ceremony or memorial sevice. I find it hard to believe I would arrange anything there myself, or just go for carols and the mood, I just feel out of place and frequently bored.
I didn't know which of the two middle options to go for, they seemed pretty much the same?
I don't much like the feel of most churches, the high ceilings and alcoves and such. But I would go if I was invited to a ceremony or memorial sevice. I find it hard to believe I would arrange anything there myself, or just go for carols and the mood, I just feel out of place and frequently bored.
I didn't know which of the two middle options to go for, they seemed pretty much the same?
I think this question has been asked before (at the other place)
Nothing would get me into a church, I am so anti everything religious it's probably not healthy.
As all my family are Atheists, I am unlikely to be invited to any kind of church service that I couldn't turn down.
When a neighbor dies I don't go to the Kirk, which is two hundred yards down the road, but I do go to the Kirk-yard (right opposite the Kirk) and pay my respects there.
Nothing would get me into a church, I am so anti everything religious it's probably not healthy.
As all my family are Atheists, I am unlikely to be invited to any kind of church service that I couldn't turn down.
When a neighbor dies I don't go to the Kirk, which is two hundred yards down the road, but I do go to the Kirk-yard (right opposite the Kirk) and pay my respects there.
Abstinence Makes the Church Grow Fondlers.
Sorry if it's not clear. By ceremony I mean wedding, funeral or baptism. A memoral service or a carol service doesn't involve a ceremony - I think they are just normal church services with a bit added on. So I thought maybe there are some who wouldn't just go to a normal Sunday service but who might attend the memorial service of someone special who died and some who might say 'No, a memorial service wouldn't mean anything to me. I'll stay at home and remember X in my own way.' I also wondered if anyone might just go to a carole service at Christmas because they enjoy singing.Miisanthrope wrote:
I didn't know which of the two middle options to go for, they seemed pretty much the same?
Re: Do you ever go to church?
I used to be where you're at but it's a good fifteen years since I attended a mass to keep someone happy. When I did, I went through the motions of crossing myself and kissing the icon. It didn't feel hypocritical - to me it was just obeying convention and it didn't bother me at all.Zoe wrote:
I attend church for the usual weddings, baptisms and funerals but I also occasionally attend a normal mass to keep the peace. I don't cross myself because that seems to me to be hypocritical but I do light candles because...I like it. Don't ask me why!
I am more anti-religious these days. I ticked the third option though in fact I wouldn't go to a carole service and I would probably draw the line at an infant baptism. But I did go to the memorial service held for my best friend who died in a car accident (back in 1988) because the funeral was a small, private family affair. The memorial took the place of the funeral in fulfilling some need in me to say goodbye. I think I would do the same again.
I would probably attend the funeral/wedding of close family members and I'd happily sing a hymn (except that we don't have them in the Greek church).
I don't see lighting a candle as a religious act but a symbolic one and, when visiting a loved one's grave in Samos, I always used to pop into the tiny chapel and light a candle and would probably do so again, if I go back.
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Due to singing, I have been to church lots of times just to sing in the choir. Our local Toun Kirk has a great organist/ choirmaster and I have often sung there under his direction. I gave up a couple of years ago as I could not stand the garbage talked by the minister.
I suppose I might go and sing somewhere like that again if pushed but I remain ceremonies only. Incidentally, my daughter's wedding was registry office so that was fine!
I suppose I might go and sing somewhere like that again if pushed but I remain ceremonies only. Incidentally, my daughter's wedding was registry office so that was fine!
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Ok, thanks, so second one then.Zoe wrote: By ceremony I mean wedding, funeral or baptism. A memoral service or a carol service doesn't involve a ceremony - I think they are just normal church services with a bit added on.
I had both my kids baptised (they were born before my more militant anti-religion phase and I was more concerned with going with the flow), but in both cases it was done in a residence, not a church.
I agree. But, I will go for weddings and funerals...because it's not really about the church or the religion...though, they are often invoked... It's about the people.... the union of people that you care about, or the loss of someone and their family and friends, that you care about.Moonbeam wrote:If I had any say at all, I wouldn't set foot in one. I just find church services so boring and often offensive.
To me...the church is just a building. I can put up with a little talk of God if it means being there for loved one.
But THAT is the only reason!
BTW: My husband brought up renewing our vows. I thought I read somewhere that one or more of you had a Humanist wedding service. Is that so? Can you hook me up with that? I'd like to know more. We are sure not going to do it in a church. We'd probably do it in the woods...with our own words. Just wondering what a Humanist Service would be like.
Thanks in advance!
I saw a wino eating grapes. I said,"Dude, you have to wait." Mitch Hedberg
Goldie, In the Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave, having the ceremony of your dreams is easier than anywhere else. Humanist weddings have legal status here in Scotland but Alan and I still chose to travel to the US for our wedding last year. Loathe as I am to link to the Other Place, the relevant thread is {removed link}.Goldie wrote:
BTW: My husband brought up renewing our vows. I thought I read somewhere that one or more of you had a Humanist wedding service. Is that so? Can you hook me up with that? I'd like to know more. We are sure not going to do it in a church. We'd probably do it in the woods...with our own words. Just wondering what a Humanist Service would be like.
Thanks in advance!
I'm sure our celebrant did renewal of vows ceremonies every day of the week as well.
There's a bit about legal Humanist weddings here.
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Re: Do you ever go to church?
I like old churches, actually. I just think the buildings are pretty.Zoe wrote:I'm making the assumption that non-believers will only go to church to make someone else happy and not because they themselves get anything out of it, but I could be wrong.
I don't mind going for weddings, funerals, any sort of ceremony. It's simply a social ritual for me. And I've been to the odd carol service, because I like the music. I doubt I'd go to a regular service unless it was a rare indulgence for someone I was very fond of (I've done far stupider things for people I cared about). Though I would expect to be suitably compensated with some sort of pastry afterward.I attend church for the usual weddings, baptisms and funerals but I also occasionally attend a normal mass to keep the peace. I don't cross myself because that seems to me to be hypocritical but I do light candles because...I like it - don't ask me why? I've noticed there's a lot of anti religious feeling among members here and I'm wondering how far strongly you feel about keeping religion out of your lives.
If you do attend a service, do you go through all the motions and sing hymns?
Re: Do you ever go to church?
Pastry! Verte! only YOU! I love you! You KILL me, babe!verte wrote:I like old churches, actually. I just think the buildings are pretty.Zoe wrote:I'm making the assumption that non-believers will only go to church to make someone else happy and not because they themselves get anything out of it, but I could be wrong.
I don't mind going for weddings, funerals, any sort of ceremony. It's simply a social ritual for me. And I've been to the odd carol service, because I like the music. I doubt I'd go to a regular service unless it was a rare indulgence for someone I was very fond of (I've done far stupider things for people I cared about). Though I would expect to be suitably compensated with some sort of pastry afterward.I attend church for the usual weddings, baptisms and funerals but I also occasionally attend a normal mass to keep the peace. I don't cross myself because that seems to me to be hypocritical but I do light candles because...I like it - don't ask me why? I've noticed there's a lot of anti religious feeling among members here and I'm wondering how far strongly you feel about keeping religion out of your lives.
If you do attend a service, do you go through all the motions and sing hymns?
I saw a wino eating grapes. I said,"Dude, you have to wait." Mitch Hedberg
Like Zoe, I wouldn't rule out attending a normal service to 'keep the peace'. I've accompanied my mother to church in the past where I've sung hymns and even recited the Lord's prayer. My mother has done and continues to do a lot for me and this seems a small thing to do for her. She knows I'm agnostic and doesn't try to insist I go.
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Maria,
I hadn't seen the pictures of your wedding before but it looks a lovely place. It looks much better than the church at which Iw as married; near Birminghma International Airport and with flashing lights of top for the pilots!
one thing though, don't you need witnesses there or does the celebrant count for all that?
I hadn't seen the pictures of your wedding before but it looks a lovely place. It looks much better than the church at which Iw as married; near Birminghma International Airport and with flashing lights of top for the pilots!
one thing though, don't you need witnesses there or does the celebrant count for all that?
Wheelchair-Rollin' Househusband
There were five of us at the wedding in total: the two us, the celebrant, the wedding organiser and the photographer. If I remember correctly, only the wedding organiser's signature was needed as a witness. I certainly remember asking the celebrant about this aspect when we were corresponding by email arranging the wedding. I told her that we were bringing no guests and she told me that was no problem.Titanium Wheels wrote:
one thing though, don't you need witnesses there or does the celebrant count for all that?
There were a few people on the beach we could've grabbed in an emergency.